Carolyn L. Braun (

Poof … and it’s all gone

Many of us who have retired worked at the same place for a long time – in my case, over 20 years. Interestingly, after all that time, I don’t have any strong friendships (with other employees) that have carried forth and it is disappointing. These are people you spend many hours with – daily for weeks, months and years. (I do have friendships with people I met because of my work – but not those I worked with on a daily basis.) Perhaps this is why some people have so much trouble getting acclimated to being retired. Their support system changes dramatically – and now they have to acquire or create a new system – which can take a long time.

It’s as Governor Dayton recently described for the day after he leaves office — “Poof … and it’s all gone.” One day you are the Governor; the next day you are old news. It can be the same when you leave a job. One day you are important; the next day you are, at most, a memory.

Thinking further about this, it underscores the importance in keeping a balance between work and life with family and friends. Are you always missing family events (kids plays, choir and band concerts, and sports or special activities with friends) because you are working? Perhaps some of your work can wait – or — in the extreme, perhaps you need a different job.

Should you be lucky enough to reach retirement age, you will need and rely on friends and family – so, it’s a good idea to have a good relationship with them.

This all sounds like unneccesary advice. It’s not. When one is wrapped up in doing their job, you can lose sight of what’s most important. Don’t let that happen to you. I am lucky to have a supportive family and friends but I could have done better.

Note: This blog was inspired by a converstation at lunch with a long-time friend.

Thanks for reading. I hope you return!

4 replies to “Poof … and it’s all gone

  1. I agree wholeheartedly with your assessment of the retirement situation especially when working for government agencies. Out of all the many employees that I worked with for a number of years I have retained one close friend. Another acquaintance who worked in a different county office stated a similar experience.

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  2. When I first started talking about leaving my office job everyone said “I’d miss all my friends from work too much” to which I replied “most of them aren’t really your friends, they are just people you work with.” As you discovered, that is the truth. What has been funny is that the people who have stayed in touch aren’t necessarily the ones I thought I was closest with when I was working. So yes, people shouldn’t ignore their other friends for work!

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    1. I think a lot of people get wrapped up in their work – to the detriment of their friends and families – and after they retire, realize the mistake they’ve made. Instead of always ‘being there’ for work, people need to ‘be there’ for their friends and families.


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